tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7665680149907475125.comments2013-08-06T23:18:10.916-04:00Second ThoughtsYamis Jewellhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12844293865054301490noreply@blogger.comBlogger32125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7665680149907475125.post-10568977777592196392013-08-06T23:18:10.916-04:002013-08-06T23:18:10.916-04:00"I hope it's not about me"<br /><br />"I hope it's not about me"Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7665680149907475125.post-49077314179440000212009-03-08T10:46:00.000-04:002009-03-08T10:46:00.000-04:00hi yamis! addiction. i know a lot about it and i...hi yamis! addiction. i know a lot about it and i would say that i have been addicted to the feelings i've derived from being in sl. let's say if you tried to take it away from me, just like a drug, i'd be jonesing! majorly. not so much anymore. my addictive behavior with sl was a symptom and not the problem - i've dealt with my problems and am enjoying life all the more for my experiences :) finding balance. thanks for writing :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7665680149907475125.post-16355121186107303482009-01-09T00:27:00.000-05:002009-01-09T00:27:00.000-05:00I have been on one year, spent several hundred USD...I have been on one year, spent several hundred USD on LL. It has been at various times a mode of introspection for inner growth, an escape from physical and emotional pain, a chat room with friends, and always a learning tool. RL has never offered me the intellectual and emotional stimulation SL has, in such a safe and non-demanding way. Yes, I spend several hours a day in SL, and it has helped me grow in such a way that RL becomes much more fun. Strangely, as I become more adept in SL, the less I feel the need to be online. A balance is being achieved. At first it was a borderline addiction, complete with sleep deprivation, now it is more a place to meet friends and while away a few hours. Now if only the sun would shine this summer, I will be with my friends naked on the beach picnicking and having a few beers. Some things SL just can never build, like a warm kiss, a cold drink, a soft wind in the forest, the soft warmth of a friend, her body and voice, well, you get the idea....my real addiction is not SL.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7665680149907475125.post-60393409756978189772009-01-08T23:10:00.000-05:002009-01-08T23:10:00.000-05:00Yay! Yamis! I am addicted!! But is it a newbie add...Yay! Yamis! I am addicted!! But is it a newbie addiction or will it continue? Who can say.. The only RL loss is television which I watch too much of anyway. I have missed somes meals because of it. Hehe! I do like to login when I get off work as see what friends are logged and see what live music is happenin'. Pop by the lot as do a little meet and greet! In the end though, its just good fun. Ask me more when ya' see next! Yay! Now I know you have a blog!iggy Kamalahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11859733563846706829noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7665680149907475125.post-75848852467405578432009-01-08T20:57:00.000-05:002009-01-08T20:57:00.000-05:00SL is addicting because, like most other addictive...SL is addicting because, like most other addictive substances and behaviors, it is mentally stimulating. This can be a problem because the high of SL is so easy to access. The key, as with anything addictive, from chocolate to heroin, is to be aware of oneself and one's limits. My guess is that most young adults are not.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7665680149907475125.post-65984928328872683782009-01-08T16:10:00.000-05:002009-01-08T16:10:00.000-05:00ONCE AGAIN people are attaching addictiveness (a b...ONCE AGAIN people are attaching addictiveness (a behavior) to an OBJECT. SL is a TOOL like a computer or hammer or a shot of whiskey. If a PERSON has a personality that is prone to addictions, then they will tend to spend more time in SL than a well-adjusted individual.<BR/><BR/>I LOVE SL but lately RL (real life) has been very demanding of my time, and I have paid my rent on my house in Gouda for the last five weeks, and yet haven't been online more than ten minutes all during that time. I miss my friends in SL, but it it just a PASTIME for me, and not a LIFESTYLE! If I ran a business in SL that my RL depended on, then that would be a different scenario.<BR/><BR/>For the record, this is coming from AN ALCOHOLIC! I had an addictive personality at one time, but I have been in recovery for over 25 years and haven't had a drink since 1983. If SL was all that 'addictive' in itself, I probably wouldn't be able to drag myself away from my terminal.<BR/><BR/>DON'T LOOK AT THE THING - LOOK AT THE PERSON USING THE THING!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7665680149907475125.post-7418456202924989122009-01-08T15:32:00.000-05:002009-01-08T15:32:00.000-05:00Anonymous Anonymous said... "It all depends on...Anonymous Anonymous said...<BR/><BR/> "It all depends on whats with you" However, my experience of SL has been really painful, it became a strong addiction, and harmful to my marriage, and I had to leave. I fell "in love" in there, and was happily married and 10,000 tears later, have tried to forget it. SL friends in general, seemed like a group of very unwell people, a lot of alcoholism I discovered, and now I'd prefer my RL friends and life. Sorry to report bad news, hope to not see you in world. If you find me there, it's a weakness in me, leftover deadhead party girl, that indeed it's time to move on from...there are far better things to do.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7665680149907475125.post-66024663258345030102009-01-08T15:30:00.000-05:002009-01-08T15:30:00.000-05:00"It all depends on whats with you" However, my exp..."It all depends on whats with you" However, my experience of SL has been really painful, it became a strong addiction, and harmful to my marriage, and I had to leave. I fell "in love" in there, and was happily married and 10,000 tears later, have tried to forget it. SL friends in general, seemed like a group of very unwell people, a lot of alcoholism I discovered, and now I'd prefer my RL friends and life. Sorry to report bad news, hope to not see you in world. If you find me there, it's a weakness in me, leftover deadhead party girl, that indeed it's time to move on from...there are far better things to do.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7665680149907475125.post-40566623446555496842009-01-08T15:21:00.000-05:002009-01-08T15:21:00.000-05:00I do agree that Second Life is addicting; however,...I do agree that Second Life is addicting; however, it really all depends on what the individual uses it for as to whether it's a healthy or detrimental activity. Second Life simply *is* and it's really up to ourselves to decide what to make of it.<BR/><BR/>My hope in this "debate" (notice the quotes) that a judgment call is not made on those that use Second Life for recreational purposes. I think this would be a much better world to live in if we all decided not to make value judgments on another person as a result of them making their own decision.<BR/><BR/>The reason why I put quotes around "debate," is due to the lack of magnitude. It certainly doesn't rank with abortion, capital punishment or marijuana legalization; it is simply an MMORPG that people use in different ways.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7665680149907475125.post-90486821836079369262009-01-08T14:51:00.000-05:002009-01-08T14:51:00.000-05:00I think that if one leads a happy and productive F...I think that if one leads a happy and productive FIRST life there will be no problem with SL addiction. I love SL and the friends I have made, and my ability to have a deadhead community like in the good old days. In Real Life, I love my girlfriend, spend a lot of quality time with her, I am very busy with school and other endeavors and always makes sure the my FIRST life comes FIRST. This enables me to have fun in SL and not take it too seriously and not NEED to spend what I would consider to be too mcuh time in there. Many addictions share a common bond. I partake in various substances, yet I can go days, weeks, months even without partaking. That goes for substances(which shall remain nameless) which many people consider to be highly addictive. Why am I able to do this? Because they are not the only things that give me joy in life, and far from it. The same with SL. My RL is so enjoyable, so full of love and companionship, creativity and purpose that I am able to treat SL for what it is...a SECOND life, not a FIRST. And I believe that this is the key. Just my two cents. Hop I haven't offended anyone or made them feel as if I am marginalizing a problem they may be experiencing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7665680149907475125.post-70264199819837537902009-01-05T04:40:00.000-05:002009-01-05T04:40:00.000-05:00I have but one life to live and my friend, you are...I have but one life to live and my friend, you are in it. You have all the support from me that you can take. You are a wonderful person, never doubt that. Never.Kazzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15944621387126790571noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7665680149907475125.post-73658900502538173172009-01-02T21:53:00.000-05:002009-01-02T21:53:00.000-05:00Yamis - what a beautiful post! Cheers to your new...Yamis - <BR/><BR/>what a beautiful post! Cheers to your new year and all the best wishes for 2009. I love your wings and I love how they carry you through all sorts of times. I'm glad to have become one of your friends and I hope in any life that continues.<BR/><BR/>*hugs*<BR/>KimKimalahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09552065624193565203noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7665680149907475125.post-90123502570462970302008-12-11T01:24:00.000-05:002008-12-11T01:24:00.000-05:00Kazz... you rock, Ms. Dudette!You captured it, we ...Kazz... you rock, Ms. Dudette!<BR/><BR/>You captured it, we that love SL totally get it - that we are in fact social beings that are immensely interested in real connection (in our real and virtual lives).<BR/><BR/>Thanks so much for encapsulating your thoughts and sharing them with us.<BR/><BR/>Friends forever,<BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/>BenAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7665680149907475125.post-90740586959022305282008-12-10T16:30:00.000-05:002008-12-10T16:30:00.000-05:00Great Kazz.... you can have a free place to share ...Great Kazz.... you can have a free place to share things on soup.io<BR/> mine is<BR/> hynesyte.soup.io/<BR/> a nice freebee for pics, music blogs...<BR/> ty YamisAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7665680149907475125.post-14134679452122825292008-12-09T22:43:00.000-05:002008-12-09T22:43:00.000-05:00Well stated Kazza!!! and TY to Yamis for posting i...Well stated Kazza!!! and TY to Yamis for posting it!<BR/><BR/>--FinnyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7665680149907475125.post-10158897755344853262008-12-03T10:57:00.000-05:002008-12-03T10:57:00.000-05:00Never say never, sweetheart!"All good things in al...Never say never, sweetheart!<BR/><BR/>"All good things in all good time."Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01303333625344876833noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7665680149907475125.post-107692291984954952008-11-25T22:19:00.000-05:002008-11-25T22:19:00.000-05:00your research and dissertation project sounds so e...your research and dissertation project sounds so exciting Yamis!! as you do more PD inworld -I would love to learn more from you :)Kimalahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09552065624193565203noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7665680149907475125.post-6864750991190083392008-10-30T11:47:00.000-04:002008-10-30T11:47:00.000-04:00Hey Yamis....I am officially tagging you for an ac...Hey Yamis....I am officially tagging you for an activity...check my blog :)bigd Flanaganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03851054246629360104noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7665680149907475125.post-88985357216983815502008-10-20T17:27:00.000-04:002008-10-20T17:27:00.000-04:00You know that you can't be everything to everyone....You know that you can't be everything to everyone. You know that you can do what you can do.. and that is it. And if it pisses other people off.. so what? We are all just humans going about our daily lives.. <BR/>What makes the difference is how you feel about the things you are doing. If you think and feel you are doing your best, then that is where you have to find yourself. <BR/>Remember that you are a beautiful inside and out. <BR/>About the cycling thing.. well, either warmer clothes or get a trainer!! <BR/>Hugs my friend!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7665680149907475125.post-20779702774317870312008-10-17T12:56:00.000-04:002008-10-17T12:56:00.000-04:00Hi Yamis! Hang in there dear one....never, ever gi...Hi Yamis! Hang in there dear one....never, ever give up!!!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01303333625344876833noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7665680149907475125.post-16961211899078031512008-10-17T12:55:00.000-04:002008-10-17T12:55:00.000-04:00Hi Yamis! Hang in there dear...you are special, do...Hi Yamis! Hang in there dear...you are special, don't forget that!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7665680149907475125.post-2671643626292826612008-10-14T20:19:00.000-04:002008-10-14T20:19:00.000-04:00Perfection is an illusion. Doing your best is a g...Perfection is an illusion. Doing your best is a goal. Being ok with yourself while concurrently having high standards is imperative. You got that going, you got it going....bigd Flanaganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03851054246629360104noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7665680149907475125.post-22882696175929618852008-10-14T17:33:00.000-04:002008-10-14T17:33:00.000-04:00sometimes we are our own worst critics - and I kno...sometimes we are our own worst critics - and I know I am that for me... your cycling sounds like the perfect way to just let some balance creep into your thinking. you seem so talented in so many ways - I am sure it will all make sense after a long ride ;)Kimalahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09552065624193565203noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7665680149907475125.post-47142840037205339282008-10-07T09:49:00.000-04:002008-10-07T09:49:00.000-04:00Now thats a good list!! Funny how we move outside...Now thats a good list!! Funny how we move outside and non desert ppl move or limit their time outside. <BR/>We used to live where there were four seasons at 7000 ft. Man, some days I totally miss that..<BR/><BR/>Thanks for playing along...bigd Flanaganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03851054246629360104noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7665680149907475125.post-21674936926344373412008-10-06T08:14:00.000-04:002008-10-06T08:14:00.000-04:00Sometimes it is not so easy to see beyond the wave...Sometimes it is not so easy to see beyond the waves.. it is fun to play in the ocean until that big wave comes and upends you. Being someone very close to you, I am so happy to read that you are finally playing with the other "kids" in your life instead of just making your own sandcastle! Hugs as always! MAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com